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Creating Pockets of Breathing Room

Share with us @tryverima or comment below how you are creating little pockets of breathing room in your life.  

My children and husband have been home for 24 hours a day for the past 7 weeks since California re-entered the purple tier of this pandemic.  As much as I love them, and as much as I lament how quickly time passes and their childhoods are speeding by. . . it is a lot of time together.  And a lot of cries for “Mommy/Mom/Dawn”  Add to it a 13-year old whose bedtime has shifted to 10:30pm, and a 6-year old whose rise-time holds steady at 6:00am and that leaves precisely zero time for me-time.  Things are further complicated as a company founder where it is my own equity on the line and up to me to decide when the workday is done.  That nagging feeling of the work I put in never being enough, has at times become so overwhelming and I have spent many nights with my head swirling and heart pounding unable to capture much needed sleep. 

Well, something has to change, so I decided to take a page from my friend Rochelle’s playbook and do what she calls “defensive calendaring” to re-establish some boundaries and claim some time for myself.  What’s more, I have started to “invite” my husband to my blocks of time so he knows that he is on duty and I am not available.  Here are some things I am trying that can hopefully inspire other moms.  And while they might not all qualify as “Me-time”, they do create small pockets of breathing room. 

Getting Fit  Slowing Down the Decline

A couple of weeks ago, I convinced my husband we had the space and the money to buy a treadmill which I would use fairly often as more than just a clothing rack.  I live in a gorgeous part of CA where the weather cooperates for outdoor activity 350 days of the year.  So why do I need a treadmill?  Because some days, I do not have the time to be physically gone from my house for an hour.  I do not have the bandwidth to plan my routes/walks, calculate distance, speed and track my progress.  The treadmill was my compromise so I could get my heart rate up and my endorphins flowing each morning.  Sometimes it’s a quick 15-minute jog while other times it’s a 45 minute *hike*.  And let’s not forget the 15-minute walk interrupted by 10-minute kiddo IT support, flanked by another 15-minute walk.  At least it’s more consistent and more overall minutes than the one hour once a week I was averaging.  (But seriously, do try to get outside as often as possible because there’s no replacement for fresh air and sunlight).

The treadmill certainly takes up a sizable chunk of Bay Area real estate and the day it arrived, my husband turned to me and said, “Now you can get fit!” 

Let’s get real here for a minute. This school year. . . . the year of the pandemic/homeschool/hybrid/shelter-at-home model, this mama is not getting fit.  I am merely trying to slow down the decline.  And for now, that will just have to do. 

Create Art Take An Art Class

A few of my friends came to the decision that 2021 was going to be a year of growth and exploration.  Sounds amazing in theory until one friend suggested we take a painting class together.  My stick-figure challenged self initially balked at the idea. . . . until I realized that it would be a chance to try something new, spend time with friends learning and growing together and there was zero pressure because no one (and I mean NO ONE) expects me to create anything remotely beautiful.  So we will make a night of it and for two hours on Friday I get time in my room, door closed, (Dad on dinner and bedtime duty) to learn, create and bond with my friends. 

Ask For Help  Share The Emotional Labor

Prior to establishing Verima, I was a full-time, stay-at-home mom and my husband was the breadwinner.  Our division of labor fell along stereotypical gender roles with my taking on all of the emotional and physical labor of our family’s needs.  Once Verima started taking up significant portions of my time, I learned to ask for help with the physical needs.  I asked my husband to pick up a child or pick-up the dinner I had ordered.  Well, I am happy to report that as Verima continues to grow, our relationship is evolving yet again.  I now ask that he share in the planning process and execution of our family’s needs.  In other words, share some of the emotional burden with me.  For example old-new me used to tell hubby that kiddo needs new glasses and ask him to take kiddo to the eye appointment.  But new-evolved me tells hubby that kiddo needs new glasses and then expects hubby to find the doctor that accepts our insurance, call the office, make an appointment and then take kiddo to the appointment.  I’ll definitely report back the day hubby is the one who notices kiddo needs new glasses. 

I know it doesn’t seem like much, but asking your partner to do more than just errands really takes a huge load off.  I find that not having to think about what to eat for dinner actually frees up so much brain space for me and allows me a few precious uninterrupted hours of productivity. 

Going Back to What I Enjoy

Earlier, I talked about exploring new areas of interest with zero expectations, but I don’t want to forget to return to the things I enjoy.  I love teaching my adult students ballet at a small studio each week. Unfortunately, we had to cancel our annual spring and winter performances due to the pandemic.  As much as I love ballet and teaching, admittedly, when the studio owner approached me to choreograph a piece for a new Zoom performance, my first thought was, “With what time?!”

But, it didn’t take long to remind myself that not only do I love to choreograph, set, and rehearse pieces, but I miss the entire process.  So, I agreed.  And now, each night when my brain is swirling with the hundreds of tasks to be done, I can turn them off, turn on Bach and let my brain interpret the music into dance.

My dear friends.  It has been a crazy year and though we can now get glimpses of the light at the end of the tunnel, there are more months of the tunnel left.  Be gentle with yourselves and hopefully, you are somewhat inspired to make some small changes to make those months just a little bit better and a little bit easier.  Stay well. 

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5 Simple Self-Care Practices for Busy Moms

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Do you know that self-care is one of the biggest keys to showing up as your best self in life, and in motherhood? In this article, we will take you through 5 simple self-care practices for busy moms. 

When you’re a busy mom, it’s easy to prioritize everything and everyone BUT yourself with so much on your plate. 

According to the American Institute of Stress, 73% of the population reported that stress affects their mental health.

Failing to make time for you is the quickest way to burn out. That’s why it’s important to practice self-care daily. To some it may sound selfish, but there’s more to self-care than spa days and “treating yourself.”

I know that mom-guilt can kick in when partaking in activities that exclude the kids, the spouse, or the family as a whole, but I challenge you to throw that out the window while doing anything that relates to self-care. You deserve time to yourself regularly, and you shouldn’t feel bad for it.

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there’s more to self-care than spa days and “treating yourself"

The whole purpose of self-care is to help you achieve balance in your day-to-day life. Practicing it consistently can result in the ultimate level of happiness, healthiness, and inner confidence. It also gives you the stamina needed to be fully present in every aspect of your life. 

You can have it all–the career, the children, and the happy marriage. How you balance it all is by navigating life with intention and tending to your health needs holistically. The way to accomplish this is by constantly doing things that benefit your mind, body, and spirit.

You can’t keep running without the routine “battery recharge.” If you feel that you’ve neglected your needs for far too long, it’s time to change that once and for all. Self-care takes effort, but practice makes perfect. Keep reading on for simple ideas you can add to your self-care routine.

Relaxation is an integral part of self-care

Simple as that. Everyone has their own way of relaxing. For you, that could mean curling up to a good book, having a movie or binge night, or just chilling in your own little corner. Find what works for you and go with it. 

When you need help winding down, nothing says “relaxation” like Verima’s lavender essential oils. Lavender is known for its calming effect on people.

Do Yoga

There are two types of moms in this world: fitness junkies and those who barely have room in their schedules to work out. 

Regardless of which category you fit into, you have to admit that yoga is worth the money and the hype.

Yoga is the perfect exercise for people who prefer non-strenuous workout. Even if hardcore fitness is your jam, yoga is the activity you 

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resort to when your body needs a pause from the intensive training. The benefits of yoga are endless. It not only improves your energy, sleep quality, and heart health, but it can also curb anxiety, alleviate depression, and decrease your stress levels

You can practice yoga at a studio or in the comfort of your own home. Most people like to attend classes to take cues from an instructor. 

If you prefer DIY workouts, the internet is a good source for discovering yoga stretches you can try on your own. 

Yoga and aromatherapy are also the best duo for an optimal workout. The next time you hit the mat, we highly recommend that you fill the room with Verima’s blueberry essential oils. Infused with hemp and coconut, this blend has what it takes to boost your heart health even more.

Have an At-Home Spa Night

When it comes to the 5 simple self-care practices for busy moms, pampering time is a non-negotiable. You owe it to yourself to dedicate an evening out of your week just for that. 

When you have those crazy hectic weeks where it feels like you barely have your head above water, an all-inclusive spa night can be the thing you look forward to during your down time.

You can start the evening with a nice, hot bubble bath. It’s an ideal way to relax your mind after a hard day’s work.

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Use our citrus trio lotion to support your daily self-care practices

You could set the mood by lighting a few candles, dimming the lights, and playing relaxing music while you soak. Moisturize with Verima’s citrus trio lotion to experience the soothing properties of CBD.

If your spouse is available to give you a massage, don’t be afraid to ask! Massage therapy can not only reduce muscle pain and improve circulation, but it can also bump up the romance at home. As an alternative, you can hire a massage therapist for the hour. Most will come to your home. 

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Verima Pain Relief Salve for Massage

While working out the kinks, they can apply Verima’s pain relief salve and acupressure roller for topical relief.

Fill the room with Verima’s peppermint essential oils to aid with blood flow and keep your skin feeling rejuvenated.  Your skin should have a radiant glow once you’re done with the bubble bath and massage. If you want glowing skin from head to toe, you can end the night with a good facial.


You’d be surprised by the health benefits of taking deep breaths throughout the day. We could sit and talk about it for hours, but the benefits range from pain relief to reduced stress

You can easily forget to do this as you’re powering through your daily agenda. It’s an essential part of the 5 simple self-care practices for busy moms. Just schedule time in your calendar to avoid that from happening.

While doing your breathwork, inhaling Verima’s lemon essential oils can aid with digestion and strengthening your immune system. 

Meditatation can revitalize your daily self-care routine

Meditation is another effective method for lowering stress, centering yourself mentally, and balancing your emotional well-being. 

It’s best to meditate in the mornings when you first wake up, but you don’t have to limit yourself to this time constraint. 

Do it when your schedule allows. While you’re in meditation mode, you can further your focus and concentration with Verima’s calming oil.

Ready to invest the time needed for daily self-care? Download our printable checklist so you can tack it to your wall as a reminder! 

I hope these 5 simple self-care practices for busy moms helps you get back on the path to balance in your day-to -day.